My boyfriend is 35, has been divorced 5 yrs, has since had 2 relationships. One of them left one weekend, and never spoke to him again. When his wife left, he said he didn’t know why. His next relationship he was going to get married but he stopped the wedding 1 week before and then tried to get back with her but she wouldn’t. We’ve been together 13 mos., He says he loves me, does not want me to leave him, and did go to a therapist every week for 2 mos. He said he is 90% on his way to marriage and when we met he said he wants a close relationship and wants to get married. Do I continue to give this man more time or do I leave?  I realize he has intimacy issues. Am I just not getting the breakup message?

Clarissa says

Dear Breakup,
Is going to a Therapist every week for two months sufficient time to resolve intimacy issues that have resulted in divorce and alienation? Maybe and maybe not. Only you can say whether or not the level of intimacy you are experiencing with this man is acceptable to you or not; the fact that you are expressing concern implies that all is not well.

I suggest that you encourage your friend to continue his Therapy and give you a call when he has resolved his issues. If marriage is your goal, it is important to not only find the right person but also to be the right person. That applies to both parties.